Break Up Help For Those Still In Love With Their Exs

Still in love with your ex? Looking around for break up

help? Well now you find yourself without the person you're

still in love with you either have to find help to move on

or help to win them back.

If you feel you should move on then the kind of break up

help you're going to need depends largely on how bad the

relationship and the end of the relationship was. If it

was a major drama that really and seriously took it out of

you emotionally, then without a doubt you're going to need

plenty of time to recover and get over the relationship.

Taking care of yourself is always key after any emotional

turmoil, but in this case where you've been tossed around

and you still feel that you love your ex, it is even more

key. Don't give yourself a hard time for any decisions you

made that you now feel in retrospect were wrong decisions.

You did the best you could with what you had, so relax and

allow yourself to be human.

Make sure that the break up help you need is to look after

you and not to look after your ex and what they might be

going through. You have left them behind and though you

still have strong feelings for them, they are no longer

your responsibility.

If you feel you need to talk to a professional to help you

put the whole relationship into perspective then you should

do this as soon as possible. In a situation where you're

still feeling vulnerable and emotional, the sooner you

regain your composure and any eroded self-esteem the

better.

If the kind of break up help you're looking for is help to

get your ex back, then you need to do some of the things

outlined above, but then you also have to make sure you're

implementing a strategy to bring you full circle so you can

make up with your ex.

So follow what's already been outlined: taking care of

yourself first and foremost, talk to a professional if you

feel you have to and forget about your ex for a few weeks

while you recover self-esteem and direction.

Once you're through the initial re-grouping stage, you then

make contact with your ex. Ask for a meeting somewhere

neutral. When you meet your ex, calmly and without being

overly emotional explain that you still have feelings for

them. Explain that you've had time to think and you'd like

another chance to make your relationship work. Take the

time to listen to your ex and hear their point of view, you

don't necessarily have to agree with them, but you need to

listen.

You then give them time to think and leave to wait for them

to call you. Truth is it could go either way. Using this

break up help guarantees nothing. Just know this, you have

given it your best shot so there is no need to spend

endless hours beating yourself up.